Insulting to both Men and Women

That what I thought when I read this article (HT) about a new book by Gary Thomas (who I’ve never heard of – not that that says much) called Sacred Influence: How God Uses Wives to Shape the Souls of Their Husbands. Why insulting? Take this from the article by Tony Woodlief:

“[T]his is a trend in advice books for Christian women. Consider Gary Thomas’ Sacred Influence: How God Uses Wives to Shape the Souls of Their Husbands, for example, which advises the Christian wife to think like an adulteress:

‘If you’ve stopped caring whether you’re ‘good in bed,’ then you’re giving less effort to your marriage than many a mistress would give to her adultery. Does that attitude honor God?’

I don’t think I’ve ever seen, in an ostensibly Christian book, a statement more theologically errant, more offensive to logic, more contemptuous of women, or more reprehensible in its characterization of marriage and God. Stop scheming for better sex techniques, it says, and you are worse than a whore. The logic is positively Orwellian. I’m sure that’s not what Thomas believes about wives who have not been attentive to their sexual prowess, but that’s what his words mean.”

It’s disturbing, no? It insults women by blaming them for their husband’s indiscretions. It insults men because it depicts them as sex-starved man-sluts who need constant satisfaction from their wives lest they throw themselves at every women they see. One tries to imagine some of the great Christian authors of the past like C.S. Lewis or John Donne telling women to act more like tramps for their husbands’ enjoyment. Another reason I avoid Christian bookstores these days. Sigh.