Whose Fault Is It?

Dr. Laura Schlesinger (it’s worth noting that her doctorate isn’t in psychology or psychiatry despite the fact that she seems to give advice in these fields – kind of like having a philosophy prof diagnosing cancer, but I digress) says that Eliot Spitzer’s wife is partially to blame for his liaisons with a prostitute. Yes that’s right, Dr. Laura figures that if a wife doesn’t make her man feel “affirmed” and like a “hero” then he’ll stray. The way Dr. Laura explains it makes it seem as though seeing a hooker was almost therapeutic for Spitzer:

“the cheating was his decision to repair what’s damaged, and to feed himself where he’s starving. But, yes, I hold women accountable for tossing out perfectly good men by not treating them with the love and kindness and respect and attention they need.”

Wow. Well, I can imagine the conversations all around the world when this information gets out.

Wife: “Dear, have you slept with a prostitute?”

Husband: “Why yes, you should be ashamed of yourself!”

The reality is that both parties in a marriage can be neglectful but I’m disgusted and insulted by the way the Dr. Laura infantilises men as these pathetic creatures that need constant self-affirmation lest they end up cheating – something that they themselves apparently cannot help but do.

Where does this meme come from? You’d think that someone like Mark Driscoll, who appears to value manly men who are responsible leaders (or something) would demand a bit more strength of character, but he goes further and says that lousy wives are the cause not only of infidelity but of homosexuality!

What gives? Does anyone else think that this is a little absurd?